Activities for lonely mums

You might have friends and family around, and you may well be on all the online baby forums and groups, but it’s still easy to feel that new mum loneliness. Here are a few baby activities to help you get out and about from play dates to baby yoga.

Lonely mum? Here are some activities you could do to benefit you and your baby!

1. Go for a walk

This might sound obvious but going for a walk can be one of the best things to do with your baby! It’s free, and you can go whenever and wherever you like. It doesn’t matter if it’s to the park or the supermarket, you’ll feel so much better for getting some wind in your hair (and for having a non-baby talk with the cashier!) If you’re really lucky, your baby might grab forty winks too.

2. Search "find a playground near me."

You’ve probably never really thought about playgrounds before, but they can be your best friend as a new mum or dad! If you’re unsure where to go a simple find a playground near me search should reveal a few nearby options. Even if your little one is too young to play on the equipment, there are bound to be lots of new families there. Take a flask, a picnic, people watch, and eye up any potential new mum (or dad) friends. You might even feel brave enough to say hello! Some playgrounds may be closed due to social distancing restrictions, however you can still go for a walk.

3. Find a mother and baby group for you

There are so many different parent and baby groups out there—from online parent support groups to real-life stroller meet-ups and mum groups (when things return to normal), often all full of other lonely mums. The trick is to find your tribe! If you feel able to, introduce yourself to the other parents; the prospect of having a two-way, adult conversation after so much baby talk can feel daunting, but you’ve all got at least one thing in common, and probably loads more. You won’t know until you ask, after all.

4. Suggest a play date or coffee

So you think you’ve met a parent to connect to. They’re probably feeling a bit worn out too! Sometimes it can be fun to take the plunge… perhaps they’d like to meet up for a coffee or play date when we’re all allowed to do that again. It could be just what you and your fellow lonely mum needs and who knows? It could lead to real friendship, another house to hang out in and a chance to natter about the baby highs and lows. They might even have some other ideas of things to do with your baby.

5. Catch a movie (when cinemas are open again)

Did you know lots of cinemas put on baby-friendly cinema screenings in the afternoon. You can keep up with the latest release, take a nap, or have a little cry—along with baby—in the dark, and no one will bat an eyelid!

6. Try baby yoga

When you have a new baby, it can feel like you’ve been cooped up at home for an eternity. So the opportunity to do some exercise alongside other mums, who are going through the same post-birth experiences as you can be absolute bliss. No one will be judging you and headstands at baby yoga are definitely off the agenda! Never feel guilty for having some ‘you time’ either especially as your baby will really enjoy the stimulating and soothing session too.

7. Go to the gym

If you’re more of a cardio queen and miss your old workout regime, check if your local gym has a creche. Breaking into a sweat can do wonders for your physical and mental health, even if it’s only for half an hour or so. Hopefully, we’ll all be back to normal soon so you’ll be able to get your exercise fix while your little one will be entertained with baby activities as you hit the treadmill.

8. Ask about library storytime

It can be really boring reading the same books over and over. There are only so many times Spot can find the ball! When they are open again, your local library may well offer parent and toddler activities. From baby storytime to singalong sessions, your little one will be able to take part in some gentle interaction with other children while you enjoy some quiet time. You might even get the chance to do some reading for yourself.

9. Visit an art gallery

Remember in your former life when you knew things about art, and stuff? We know it might feel like your brain has turned to mush, but perhaps all you need is a little creativity and culture to reignite your imagination and sense of self. When your little one is small, you can pop them in a sling and stare at art to your heart’s content, when they are back open again of course. And when they’re bigger, family-friendly galleries with interactive areas and baby activities for your little one to play and learn can be a godsend and are often free!

10. Spend time with family!

When COVID 19 restrictions allow, family members (particularly grandparents) will be overjoyed if you turn up and ask them to take care or even hold your baby while you eat something/go to the toilet/close your eyes just for a second. Don’t be afraid to say if you’re having a hard time or feeling a bit blue. Parenthood is full of ups and downs, and it can really help to talk about it with loved ones who’ll give you a hug (remember those?) and tell you you’re doing great. Because you are. Read our article on signs of baby blues if you’re worried about how you’re feeling.